The Importance Of Pursuing Your Whole Person Healing


By: Lady Joy


In Proverbs 3:5-6 the word of God tells us to Trust God with all our heart and lean not to our own understanding but in all our ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct our path. This includes the pathology of how we think, perceive, desire, understand, and decide rooted in our own understanding. Traumatization of the mind creates a wounded pathology of trauma; negatively impacting how we think, perceive, understand, desire and respond due to traumatic life experience(s) that ensue crisis in our life situations that was derived from a damaged pathological way of believing.

In the body of Christ, we may understand traumatized pathology to be generational curses that create generational cycles of crisis, preventing people from being who God created them to be and living the life they desire that is in alignment with God plans for their life. However traumatization does not always appear as detrimental to our well being until we experience the consequential outcome of our decision. Many of cultural norms are the manifestation of a traumatized pathology of thinking, perceiving, desiring, deciding and responding. This is why God sent His love into the perishing worldly mindset to save it from the traumatized pathology of sin and iniquity that is the mind and heart of the enemy being manifested through the decisions and actions of people. When not recognized we think that life challenges to include crisis is happening to us when indeed life is flowing out of our traumatized identity of the mind and heart. A traumatized mind and heart attracts the dark forces within people who are in desired agreement with how we think, perceive, understand, desire, decide and respond.

The word of God calls us to renew our mind and protect our hearts because outside of the mind of Christ is crisis and trauma. Us coming into an intimate knowing of God’s higher and heavenly thoughts through practical application renews the spirit of our mind that is known as the subconscious mind; where the traumatized pathology of the mind needs to be healed and realigned in God’s divine order of healing that gives us peace and establishes our well being to live our desired lifestyle. Our walk by faith accomplishes this healing from the traumatized pathology of the mind so we can be born again into the healed identity of the mind of Christ. Being born into sin and shaped into iniquity is the evidence of a traumatized identity that creates the path of traumatized pathology of thinking, perceiving, desiring, understanding, deciding and responding.

Therefore, when we try to pursue our life goals and desired interest while not understanding it is rooted in a misappropriated thought, perception, desire and decision that will result in an adverse response; we enter the generational cycle of the generational curse that is also the traumatized pathology of the mind.

When we desire to really know God we will really understand Him as Savior because we will come to know Him as Healer of our whole person identity in mind, spirit, soul and body; healing how we think, perceive, understand, desire, decide and respond that empowers, as well as, equips us to recognize as we attract to us blessed relationships; creating life experiences that is the result of our healed identity in the mind of Christ. This is the purpose of the word of God instructing us to let this mind be in us that is in Christ Jesus. We are purposed to have an intimate understanding of how the mind of Christ heals our whole person identity. In understanding this we better understand our covenant relationship with God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit that we are made in the image and likeness. This intimate understanding is the result of us practically applying the word of faith in our daily life decisions that structures our everyday lifestyle.

As a Pastoral Counselor who utilizes a relational wellness coaching approach rooted in a Christ centered wellness perspective and biblical counseling practices with a strong understanding and training of secular counseling methods; God has gifted me to understand the theology of the mind, the psychology of the spirit and the counseling of the soul to bring about whole person healing where we are strengthened in our identity as well as covenant relationship with the Lord.

I invite you to apply to enroll in the New You Self Love Wellness Program to heal the traumatized pathology of your unrenewed mind so you can begin to understand your healed identity from a Christ centered wellness perspective that makes you well, whole and holy in mind, spirit, soul and body. I would love to partner with you as your Pastoral Counselor along your healing journey.

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Having Your Mind Healed As You Let God Do A New Thing

We have to have a perspective shift in order to see the new thing God desires to do in our lives. The perspective shift will only happen in the presence of His living word as we meditate to encounter His higher and heavenly thoughts that is the living word of faith. It is in us understanding  His living word that we begin to effectively communicate with God as a new creation in Christ. Our new creation in Christ occurs when we receive a heavenly mindset that is established in the higher and heavenly thoughts of God that gives us a new mind in Christ as well as the higher and heavenly desires of God that gives us a new heart in the Holy Spirit gifting us the new covenant relationship with our heavenly Father. I hear often within the body of Christ, “Get ready God is about to blow your mind” and always desired the new found clarity of what that experience would be like. When God blows our mind our perspective shifts and aligns with His higher and heavenly way of thinking to include His higher and heavenly way of desiring where we have the opportunity to have a higher and heavenly  response where all blessed things are added to us.
Every area of our life where we struggle, we are experiencing a lack of knowledge that is the result of a lack of communication with God. The parable of putting new wine in new wineskins is about putting new belief in the new wineskins that is a new heavenly mindset. In the beginning of God creating anything,  He always does it through His living word that reveals His higher and heavenly thoughts.
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through Him, and without Him nothing was made that was made. In Him was life, and the life was the light of men. And the light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not comprehend it. – John 1:1-5
It is not until we encounter the understanding of God’s living word that we actually begin to effectively communicate with God and therefore relate with a redeemed understanding towards God as a living being who is a new creation in Christ.  The more we spend time with God getting to understand His word, the more we become a New creation in thought, word, belief, perspective, feeling, desire, emotion and action; giving manifestation to the heavenly mindset of God on earth as it is in heaven.
When the word of God tells us to meditate on His word unceasingly, He is telling us to stay in communication with Him so we can understand His direction and remove the struggle that comes as a result of having a lack of understanding. Our everyday miracle is our everyday heavenly inheritance of God’s daily provision of understanding the ways of God that consist of knowing the who, what, when, where , how and what. God’s daily provision is us knowing His higher and heavenly thoughts that is also His higher and heavenly plan and will for our lives.
When God gives us His way, at the beginning we will not understand His way because His way requires our trust that aligns us with His understanding. When we try to put the new wine of a new understanding in the old wineskins of our old mindset, we will not be able to comprehend a heavenly way of thinking when we still are trying to relate from a carnal way of thinking. It is not until we commit to the process of trusting God to the point of completion, that we will understand why God directed us the way He did.  This commitment process is our life time journey back to the heart and mind of the Heavenly Father where there is no lack of understanding because we are being restored to full time communication. It is in the experience of us comitting to trust God that aligns us with God’s heavenly perspective where we begin to understand the secret mysteries of God’s kingdom because we manifested His kingdom within our whole person and everyday lifestyle.
It is not in the hearing of His word that we are made new. It is in the execution of us obeying His living word that our understanding of what we heard is made new as our whole person comes in heavenly alignment with the higher and heavenly thoughts of God that directs to reveal the higher and heavenly ways of God. It is by us walking by faith that we understand God’s heavenly perspective because our walk by faith is what manifest the understanding of the higher and heavenly thoughts of God.  Our mind is not renewed until our actions fulfill the thoughts of God for our lives.
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.  Jeremiah 29:11
Every time we fulfill the higher and heavenly thoughts of God we experience a new perspective and shift into the heavenly mindset of God. This is  where our old mind is blown with the new living revelations of God, setting us free from the struggle of not knowing what to do in our everyday life situations because we do not know the higher and heavenly thoughts of God that is the beginning of our walk by faith. God’s Holy Spirit breathes eternal life in our whole person making us living beings who are made in the image of His higher and heavenly desires and likeness of His higher and heavenly thoughts.  We must self evaluate and ask ourselves what areas of our lives are we still struggling in? These are the areas of our lives where we need the Holy Spirit of God’s living word to breathe eternal understanding so we are made a living being empowered to walk by faith and manifest the blessed promises of God in our lives. We all are purposed to be an overcomer who is more than a conqueror of the old creation that has the cursed belief and cursed mindset that is an impoverished way of thinking and living derived from a lack of understanding the true and living word of God that sets us free from the power, presence and penalty of the curse.
 And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. – John 8:32
This worldly way of believing gives us a cursed way of believing because they have an intimate knowing of Satan’s Spirit of error that separates us all from God’s Holy Spirit of Truth. This worldly systematic way of thinking, desiring and responding has nothing to do with the new thing God desires to do through His spiritual body of believers. God desires to renew our mind from an old cursed systematic way of believing that built the worldly mindset and the manifested kingdoms of this world to a new kingdom way of thinking. God’s will is only established through believers who have encountered a perspective shift that aligns them with the higher and heavenly thoughts of God to establish His higher and heavenly will on earth through us as He established it in the kingdom of heaven within you.
Our own prideful understanding prevents us from knowing the higher and heavenly ways of God until we surrender our cursed way of thinking and position ourselves in the presence of God’s living word to receive God’s higher and heavenly way of thinking. Every crisis is a crisis of fear because of the lack of knowledge that is destroying God’s people from choosing blessings and abundant life instead of the curse of prideful understanding that is an impoverished way of believing.
It is time to get some revelation education and understand who you are as a new creation in Christ who is a new creation because of the living word of God that makes you a living being. You are more than human! You are a Child of the living God purposed to be the living manifestation to include witness of His glory. I invite you to enroll in the Holistic Life & Relational Wellness Coaching Certification Program to understand how to practically live your life in your new identity in Christ where all things are possible because all things became new starting with you.

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Understanding How To Worship God Through Establishing Covenant Relationship

As a minister of the gospel my heart is grieved to see us not taking care of the body of Christ because we have not dealt with our hearts of idol worship which is placing things of more importance than the true worship of our heavenly father and His will for our lives. I write this for us all to take a moment to acknowledge our part and pray to ask God to reveal what and who we have valued more than him that has hindered us from loving him and his family who is purposed to help heal the family as well as return the earth back to the family. This will require a heart check and a surrender of our ungodly desires that is the strength of idol worship;  so in turn we can delight in our Heavenly Father and support each other spiritually, emotionally, relationally, intellectually, physically and financially that is the evidence of us loving God and us loving His people in the time and season He purposed them to be in our lives. This is honor and the evidence of an impact believer that God uses mightily to fulfill His kingdom agenda on earth as it is in heaven.
Idol worship requires a lifestyle of allegiance to our ungodly desires because it is purposed to stop our allegiance to God’s righteous desire that is His will in our lives. When we put things and relationships before God those things and relationships will require our time, loyalty and ongoing support. Ungodly desires is the misplaced allegiance we give Idol worship that strategically puts us out of position of the plan of God for our lives. We put the ungodly desire for careers, homes, cars, travel, food, relationships and anything else to include anyone else is the evident lifestyle of idol worship. It is idol worship because we desire to have it before we allow God to prepare us by understanding His mind and heart that is our grace to manage all relationships and things in the Holy Spirit of His perfect love. Therefore our ungodly desires ends up owning our time instead of God being able to direct our time; that is the greatest tool for strengthening our mind and heart, that is the beginning of how we are in covenant relationship with God and covenant relationship with his people. Covenant relationship is how we partner with our Heavenly Father’s kingdom agenda to save a perishing people from a perishing worldly mindset that is in covenant relationship with Satan’s mindset and his kingdom agenda to kill, steal and destroy God’s covenant relationship with His people by first allowing ourselves to have a covenant relationship with our Heavenly Father.
The word of God tells us in Mark 10:28-30:
Then Peter began to say to Him, “See, we have left all and followed You.” So Jesus answered and said, “Assuredly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands, for My sake and the gospel’s, who shall not receive a hundredfold now in this time—houses and brothers and sisters and mothers and children and lands, with persecutions—and in the age to come, eternal life.
This is a heard saying to understand when we have placed relationships with people and things before our relationship with our Heavenly Father. Religion gives people’s carnal desires control over us, separating us from the gift of covenant relationship with God who puts us in right covenant relationship with people. God never intended us to stress out about being a wife, husband, mother, father, daughter, son, sister, brother, niece, nephew and so forth because it is His being within us that empowers us to fulfill those ministerial and relational positions of honor. However, we must let go of our perspective of being this to people and allow God to reveal His true perspective of how He has assigned us to fulfill these positions of honor.
Our Heavenly Father desires us to give up and give Him everything and everyone so we all can be free to worship authentically without fear of our inadequacies within relationship because relationship has always been purposed as the gift of God’s love, honor and support to one another. When we give Him the weakness of our inadequacies, He gives us the strength of His power, love wisdom and understanding to maintain relationship by loving people as He has taught us to love ourselves. The key is learning to love God first that is teaching us to love us first without fear of not being enough for our spouses, children, parents, extended family, friends, supervisors, co workers and extended community.  Us trying to manage these relationships without God is us saying through our actions that we know better than God in how to sustain a healthy relationship. This kind of belief is the prideful understanding that separates us from the heart of God and is at the root of every relational issue where hurt people hurt people.
Before we can heal our relationships we must allow God to heal our perspective and understanding because it is His love through us that is purposed to save our perishing spouse, parents, siblings, family, friends, supervisors, co workers, and community by first allowing him to heal our perspective and understanding that will set you and I free from their prideful mindset. In turn, freeing us all so will worship our Heavenly Father in spirit and truth; where our joy is full because you and I have entered the presence of the mind and heart of God who teaches us to manage our life, love and relationships. When we give God everything and everyone, we invite Him in to teach us His higher and heavenly thoughts that will heal our marriage, heal our families, our professional relational associations and heal your community.
Everything is about support that is the manifestation of belief. A lack of financial support is a lack of belief. A lack of belief is a lack of faith. We all need spiritual support, emotional support, relational support, intellectual support, physical support and financial support. In the areas we are supported we feel love. In the areas we are not supported we are open to be attack by the enemy. Support covers people from the flood of the enemy’s desire to kill, steal and destroy them because support is an act of love and honor. God’s people suffer in life because of a lack of support that is the evidence of a lack of love. When we worship our selfish and ungodly desires it steals from the true worship of God just like improper relational habits steals the support from our God ordained relational assignments.
It is important that we are aware of our God ordained relationships because this is who God has purposed to support us in growing in deeper covenant relationship with Him as we all partner to fullfill His will for our lives, people and all His creation in the image and likeness of love. In us giving the proper support to God’s people in the right timing of when He reveals we position our selves as the evidence of His love by giving our spiritual support, emotional support, relational support, intellectual support, physical support and financial support. God reveals through giving us the truth that sets us free which this article is purposed to accomplish. When we are out of position, we put the spiritual body of Christ out of position and open ourselves up for an attack from the enemy because our support system is displaced supporting the wrong people and therefore things that empowers the enemy of a carnal worldly culture to continue to thrive in deceitful lust and prideful intentions.
It grieves the Spirit of God that we would value what is not of Him more than we value who and what is from Him. This is like a brother and sister fighting and giving their support to people who do not care about the well being of the family. There is a worldly culture that has been setup putting believer against believer by giving us the deceitful belief that their love is better than the love of those who God has purposed to support that is the evidence of our love for the people God has assigned in our lives as well as our love for him.
The word of God says in Matthew 25:40-45:

And the King will answer and say to them, ‘Assuredly, I say to you,inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these My brethren, you did it to Me.’ “Then He will also say to those on the left hand, ‘Depart from Me, you cursed, into the everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels: for I was hungry and you gave Me no food; I was thirsty and you gave Me no drink; I was a stranger and you did not take Me in, naked and you did not clothe Me, sick and in prison and you did not visit Me.’ “Then they also will answer Him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see You hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not minister to You?’  Then He will answer them, saying, ‘Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to Me.’

The fire is a consuming ungodly desire that nevers satisfy but is the cycle of death where we never receive what we ultimately desire and that is true love. God lives in us and his love needs to be supported to manifest the will of God on earth as it is in heaven. The more we let go of our own understanding, our own desires that is the strength of idol worship, then the more we will let go of improper relationship with a worldly way of thinking and relating to each other so the spiritual body of Christ will be better supported to manifest God’s kingdom on earth as it is in heaven. The reason the world culture is dominant in the earth is because the spirit of that culture has been stealing the perspective, belief, love and therefore allegiance of the spiritual body of Christ to manifest Satan will on earth as it is in hell. The spiritual body of Christ will heal when we all fall out of love with a worldly culture that is not our own so that our heavenly culture will manifest through us; putting us all in our rightful position of ruling as the sons and daughters of God.
The word of God says in 2 Corinthians 6:17-18:
Therefore“Come out from among them, And be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you.” “I will be a Father to you, And you shall be My sons and daughters, Says the Lord Almighty.”
May we all come out of our prideful understanding and selfish desires so we can claim the rightful covenant relationship with our Heavenly Father. This is at the beginning of worship God in spirit and truth by letting Him teach us how to establish covenant relationship with Him, ourselves and people. I invite you to join our New You Wellness Community where we are purposed to help heal relationships through realigning our allegiance to God who in turns teaches us how to be in relational wellness with each other.

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Starting The Healing Process Of Overcoming An Act Of Betrayal

Some people think when forgiving someone; they have to invite that person back into their life with the same access the betrayer had before the act of betrayal. However, this is not completely true. You can forgive someone  by committing to the process of forgiveness and giving the hurt and pain associated with someone to the Lord; trusting that His healing presence will strengthen you in understanding His truth that sets you free from the anger and bitterness that can result when you are the one who has been betrayed. The Lord sets you free from the presence of anger by filling you with  His healing presence of  love. He sets you free from bitterness by freeing you from the offense that lingers when unforgiveness is present. He frees you from deceit by revealing the deceitful intent and thoughts of the betrayer; to help you protect your heart from their issues, as well as, your issue of having a lack of ability to discern their intent, thoughts and motive towards you.
The best apology is changed behavior because changed behavior is the evidence of true repentance. In order for changed behavior to become habitual it has to be established in the heart transformation of a person that makes it true repentance. This changed  behavior is the fulfillment of the change in belief of the betrayer that will empower their changed behavior to remain; revealing that their apology is indeed true because their heart has become new.
Although we are called to forgive, it is not healthy for us to let the betrayer back in our lives to give them access to our heart when they have not went through the process of true repentance that is a heart transformation towards God and a changed behavior towards you. Although they transgressed towards you, they first sinned against God. To sin against God is to sin against the image and likeness of His perfect love that we are all called to abide in. However, we do not have the power to love like God without a committed lifestyle of cultivating a relationship with God.  No one has the power to transgress against you without first sinning against God and dishonoring themselves.
The transgressor who is the betrayer, betrayed God before they betrayed you. The transgressor betrayed the commandment to love God and themselves before they betrayed the commandment to love you. Sometimes the act of betrayal can be done intentionally but often times it is done by the betrayer not understanding the hurt and pain they will cause because they are blinded by the deceit lust and pride within their own heart. This prevents the betrayer from properly caring for your heart. So until they are ready to address the issues of their heart, it is important to protect your heart from their issues as you trust the Lord to heal the wound they ensued towards you as you move forward in forgiveness.
Trusting the Lord starts with giving time to God to allow His living word of faith to minister to your wounded heart enabling you to trust and love again by equipping you with the truth that we set you free from that spirit of deceit that is an act of betrayal. It is bigger than just the person who betrayed you. If you do not get the healing that is needed the deceptive belief that will often call a spirit, will betray you again in another person. Because the spirit of deceit is the issue we need to protect ourselves from and this spirit takes on many forms which is the physical body of people. This is why the word of God tells us that we do not wrestle with flesh and blood but with principalities, powers of this age, rulers of darkness and spiritual host of wickedness (Ephesians 6:12-19). This is the different realms of deceit and wickedness at operation working in the hearts and minds of people who have not surrendered their hearts and minds to God. The only way to protect you is by putting on the whole armor of God that protects your thoughts, desires, emotions, decisions and actions. God’s living  word of faith is full of grace and truth which is His presence in people who are committed to intimately knowing Him in their hearts and minds.  Romans 12:2 tells us:
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
When we allow the living word of God to renew our minds and hearts, our minds and hearts enters covenant relationship with the mind and heart of God where we come to intimately know His heavenly thoughts and ways as the image and likeness that His created us in; equipping us to love like He loves and to respond like He responds. When people do not commit to knowing the mind and heart of God, they sometimes unknowingly are used by their deceptive thoughts and desires to transgress against people, dishonor themselves as they initially sinned against God. This is because when will are not pursuing the mind and heart of God; we are intimately in covenant relationship with the mind and heart of the enemy which is revealed in Jeremiah 17:9 that states:
The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it?
Because we are born into sin and shaped in iniquity we have to be reborn in the grace and righteousness of God (Psalms 51:5). To reborn means to be renewed in the mind by having a heart transformation that has encountered the living presence of God’s grace and truth which purifies the heart with His Holy Spirit of faith. This is one of the reason why without faith it is impossible to please God because our minds and hearts are purposed to remain in a covenant relationship with God’s living word of faith, that comes by hearing His living word (Romans 10:17) that is His law that He renews the minds and hearts of mankind back into His Holy image and likeness. So when we truly commit to a lifestyle of seeking the mind and heart of God, His living presence in us helps us to overcome acts of betrayal where we are able to forgive and show mercy as He shows us mercy. As long as we all are being made new in Christ, we have the ability to betray someone in any area of our lives that we have not fully committed to God who is love and enables us to honor people as we honor Him and as we honor ourselves.
I invite you to join our New You Wellness Community where we are committed to helping people along their life’s journey to heal and live a lifestyle of relational wellness with God, themselves and people.


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Is Self Love A God Thing?

Within the body of Christ, we hear conflicting perspectives regarding self love. The most communicated perspective is the selfish intent regarding loving ourselves when we should be loving others to save them for Christ. Self Love is a spiritual wisdom principle and love response that requires us to understand the intent and thoughts of the Gods heart, our heart and the hearts of people. Self Love is purposed to manifest the spiritual identity of that our soul desires the most. This spiritual identity could be rooted in the identity of Satan’s spiritual mind of error or God’s Holy Spirit of truth.
There are two spiritual paths to go about practicing self love. One spiritual path increases the deceit and wickedness of one’s heart and the other spiritual path purifies the heart with the presence of faith, which is the living presence of God’s word in our soul redeeming us from the curse of the law. The word of God tells us in Acts 15:8-9;
So God, who knows the heart, acknowledged them by giving them the Holy Spirit, just as He did to us, and made no distinction between us and them, purifying their hearts by faith.
Furthermore, the word of God tells us he will write his word on our hearts. This empowers an intimate knowing of self through understanding righteous self love. This equips us to love people as the presence of God’s living word has loved us. The word of God tells us in 2 Corinthians 3:2-3;
You are our epistle written in our hearts, known and read by all men; clearly you are an epistle of Christ, ministered by us, written not with ink but by the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of flesh, that is, of the heart.
Our soulish hearts are purposed to take on the spiritual identity of the Holy Spirit of the living God that is His heart; or take on the identity of the enemies self righteous heart. This is based on which Spirit, we choose to believe. In Deuteronomy 30:15-20, He tells us He puts blessings and curses before us life or death choose life. When we choose the living word of God we chose the gift of eternal life that is our faith. Therefore we choose the gift of righteous self love that is an intimate knowing and therefore intimate relationship with the Triune God in us making self love righteous when we understand self love God’s way.
Our freewill establishes a heart to heart covenant with God that is righteous self love or a heart to heart covenant with Satan that is a self righteous love which is deceitful and wicked because it is the image and likeness of Satan’s spirit of error in us that is false idol worship giving us self destructive thoughts, beliefs, perspectives, will, desires, emotions and actions. When we use our freewill to choose God, we worship God’s Holy Spirit of truth that is our righteous self love identity also known as our Christ identity that is the identity of the living word in our flesh. This is the living presence of God’s glory full of grace and truth purifying our hearts by faith to practice self love righteously. The more we understand so we can properly embrace the image and likeness of the Tribune God in us Who awakens righteous self love; we will become empowered and equipped to love people as we have learned from God to love ourselves. This is actually the love commandments that I call the love principles of Christ.
I want to invite you to enroll in the New You Self Love Wellness Program that is a whole person healing and leadership development program purposed to help you understand righteous self love God’s way. This program is purposed to heal and restore your whole person in the identity of Christ. The living word of God in your mind, spirit, soul and body empowers and equips you to love you with the presence of God’s righteous love that has become awakened in you .

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The Healing Power In Enjoying The Lord’s Presence

Healing is a life time process of overcoming wounds that occur along our life’s journey. The very definition of healing means, “the process of making or becoming sound or healthy again.”  As believers in Christ, when we come to accept Christ as our Lord and Savior we are confessing our need to be healed. We are confessing our need to be redeemed in the healed identity of Christ, who is the Lord and Savior of our whole person and everyday lifestyle. Our life’s journey is a healing process of cultivating a healthy relationship with God, a healthy relationship with the trinity of God in us and a healthy relationship with the God in people. The first four letters of the word healthy is heal. God desires us to heal so that we become healthy in mind, spirit, soul and body. His very presence is our gift of healing because His  very presence is our gift of eternal life; which is the living and powerful healing presence of the trinity of God in our mind, spirit, soul and body.

Outside of God’s presence in us is the presence of sin that wounds us with the unhealthy identity of the enemy of the inner me. Because we are born into sin and shaped into iniquity, we are more familiar with our unhealthy sinful identity then we are with our healed identity in Christ. If we desire to truly heal, we must confess our need to be healed; not just when we initially accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior but every moment we realize how much we need to be healed and delivered. The word of God tells us in 2 Chronicles 7:14:

If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and HEAL their land.

God desires to heal the land of our whole person identity in mind, spirit, soul and body that is our thoughts, beliefs, perspectives, words, will, desires, emotions, feelings and actions. Without us committing to the lifetime journey of healing; we choose to accept the curse of an unhealthy sinful identity that we were born and shaped into. Therefore, we end up reaping the deceitful lust and wicked pride of our own understanding that hinders an intimate relationship with God through Christ Jesus. This is the lifelong and daily battle that is the spiritual war of deciding to obey God instead of disobey God. The more we enjoy the presence of God, the more it becomes easier to obey God, because our obedience becomes our love response instead of a religious obligation. The word of God tells us in 2 Corinthians 10:4-6:

For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled.

I acknowledge it is not always easy to love God. This is because it is not easy to surrender the unhealthy sinful identity of our flesh that deceives us with the temptations of our selfish will and wicked pride; which is the evidence that we do not understand the thoughts or ways of God because we are too intimate with the thoughts and ways of this worldly culture that wants to conform us, while God desires to transform us back to His image according to His likeness. It is not easy to be something or someone that we were not raised nor trained to become. However, the more we abide in the presence of the living word of God, the more we position ourselves to be graced by the righteous desire to obey God, all because we delighted in His presence. This is the retraining that is the renewing of the mind and the spirit of our mind. Psalms 37:4 tells us :

Delight yourself also in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.

The more we delight ourselves in the presence of God’s living and powerful word, the more we will desire to obey His word that becomes our love response toward Him, ourselves and others. This becomes the love response that is revealed by us obeying the faith that we hear; where we become doers of the word of God and not hearers only. Our obedience is the evidence that we love the living and powerful word of God that we hear. Proverbs 18:21 tells us:

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.

When we love the word of God that we hear, we will eat the fruit of that word which means we will trust the desire of that word and respond accordingly. Any instruction that God gives us is purposed to grow us in the understanding of how He loves that is only learned through obeying what He reveals to us. The more we obey Him because we delight in His word that we hear, the more we obey in love and are transformed into the image and likeness of His perfect love and delivered from the religious obligation of outward service that lacks the presence of heart transformation. This heart transformation is the evidence of a new belief, a new spirit, new desire and therefore a new heart that has been purified by faith making us single minded and therefore one with God in the healed identity of our new creation in Christ.

Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.

The devil is in the presence of our unhealthy sinful thoughts, beliefs, perspectives, will, desires, emotions, feelings and actions of our unhealthy, sinful , and non redeemed identity that conforms us to the image and likeness of Satan, creating in us a battle that is the evidence of double mindedness because we have not decided in our whole person to commit to God in every area of our life. I understand this is a process, however the process is revealed by God when it time to move forward in our healing.

Our whole person is purposed to worship God. A worshipper is someone who delights in the presence of God’s living word and bears fruit by obeying God. Our walk by faith is our love response. It is how we heal and are used by God to heal others. To walk by faith means to believe by faith, the living word of God, that is the evidence of us obeying the faith that we hear. When we obey the faith that we hear, we heal and we are used to be God’s vessel of healing to others reconciling each other back to covenant with the Father. I hope this article has inspired you to self evaluate your love response to the Father, yourself and those He has purposed you to be in covenant relationship with.

I invite you to join New You Wellness Community where we are committed to our life’s journey of healing and being reconciled back to our healed identity in Christ that is revealed in how we love God, how we love ourselves and how we love others; making it well with everything that concerns us.


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It Is Time To Overcome Your Disillusioned Love Experience

Ladies and Gentlemen, is it really about us desiring to love a man or woman like God or is it really about loving ourselves vicariously through that man or woman worshiping us? When we choose to glorify ourselves in relationships, especially of a romantic nature before God,  we will reap the consequences of a self centered selfish love instead of Christ centered righteous  and fullfilling love. A lustful appetite is never satisfied because it is never fulfilled with a Christ like love that empowers the heart to be content, pleased and fulfilled because it is not the love that a person gives us, instead it is about the love that Christ bestows us empowering us to love like Christ.  The word of God tells us in Songs of Solomon 8:4;
I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, Do not stir up nor awaken love Until it pleases.
When we awaken romantic love before it’s time, love is not what we will receive. Instead, it will be the disillusioned life experience of our own lustful appetites that awakens sinful desire towards our romantic love interest instead of the true love of Christ.  Awakening love before it’s time is awakening immature desire before the mature desire of God, who is the Creator, Sustainer and Multiplier of true love.  I have encountered many woman who desire to be in a romantic relationship for various reasons. Some desire to be a wife, some desire companionship, some desire a best friend, some desire a life partner and some desire a father for their children and so forth. However, if these desires have not been submitted to the desire to love like Christ and trust God’s higher and heavenly will and way for their life all these desires will give a disillusioned life experience that will end in sorrow and regret.
It is the love of Christ that prepares us as woman to know the intents and thoughts of our heart that allows us to see into that man’s heart protecting him and us from the deceitful lust of the heart that bring about a disillusioned life experience that steals time, kills hope and destroys trust.  The word of God tells us,
The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it?
Only the living and powerful word of God is able to discern the intents and thoughts of the heart (Hebrews 4:12). Some believers get with the wrong mate because they had the peace of the flesh that was derived from the understanding of committing to their own way of doing things, instead of trusting God’s higher and heavenly way of doing things and end up experiencing  the manifestations of heartbreak that makes it hard to recover from deceitful disillusionment derived from deceitful understanding. It is in us understanding the higher and heavenly thoughts of God that includes God’s higher and heavenly instructions that puts us on the path of God’s higher and heavenly way towards the true peace of God that removes the deceitful lust and prideful intentions of a desperately wicked heart that is set on getting our own desire our way and in our time.
Peace and joy comes from getting what we want; however just because we may experience peace and joy in relationships, it does not mean it is the peace and joy given to us from God. There is a deceitful peace and joy that comes with the desires of our flesh being satisfied because this is the presence of the spirit of deceit that makes sin pleasurable veiling the consequences of sorrow and regret that is attached to a deceitful heart full of deceitful understanding.
We hear how much woman have been hurt by men; however until we ladies take accountability of our own lustful intent that got in desired agreement with his lust, we will continue the cursed cycle of heartbreak that is the strength of broken relationships, broken couples and therefore a broken family. If we truly want to heal the family and attract the man of our dreams, we first must allow God to manifest us as the woman of God’s dream (Jeremiah 29:11) who prepares us to be our God ordained mate good thing and resounding favor.
I want to encourage you ladies as I encourage myself, do not be wise in your own understanding but pursue to know the higher and heavenly understanding of the Lord who empowers you to protect your heart with all diligence from the issues of life starting with the issue of self deceit that attracts the issues of passively and sometimes aggressively pursuing the wrong man that appears to be right because of the unresolved issue of deceitful lust in our own heart that prevents us from discerning the pure light of Christ that positions us to be seen by the true man purposed to set us free to experience true love without apprehension, doubt, fear, or deceit because we trusted God to prepare us, equip us and lead us to the man that He has approved to love us like Christ love the church, with a sacrificial life giving and empowering love that blesses at all times without the fear of regret and sorrow.  Just like a man does not become a husband when he says I do to a woman; a woman does not become a wife when she thinks she is ready. Instead it is in us committing the work of discovering our purpose, cultivating our vision and fulfilling our mission that makes us the bride of Christ as He prepares us to be the wife as He prepares that man to be a husband. The word of God tells us in Isaiah 54:5-6:
For your Maker is your husband,The Lord of hosts is His name; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel; He is called the God of the whole earth. For the Lord has called you Like a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, Like a youthful wife when you were refused,” Says your God.
Do not reject Godly counsel because of what you think you are ready to experience, but have yet to truly understand. The deceitful lusts of our flesh does not change, it only grows stronger in deception appearing as a blessing from God because of the disillusioned life experience we opened the door of our heart to believe. The only thing that shifts the perspective of  the flesh is the living word of God making us new in understanding the higher and heavenly way of God’s perfect work in us making us a new creation in thought, word, emotion and deed where the disillusionment of our love experience comes to an end  (2 Corinthians 5:17). It takes time to heal the subconscious and conscious mind of the issues of a deceitful heart that is a slave to deceitful and charming intent (Proverbs 4:23).
I invite you to apply to enroll in the Holistic Life & Relational Wellness Coaching Certificate Program where you will discover your purpose, cultivate your vision and understand how to fulfill your mission in every relational assignment. This program is purposed to help prepare you for life, love and work as you overcome the spiritual war of a disillusioned fleshly mindset that attracts a disillusioned love experience.

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