Ladies and Gentlemen, is it really about us desiring to love a man or woman like God or is it really about loving ourselves vicariously through that man or woman worshiping us? When we choose to glorify ourselves in relationships, especially of a romantic nature before God, we will reap the consequences of a self centered selfish love instead of Christ centered righteous and fullfilling love. A lustful appetite is never satisfied because it is never fulfilled with a Christ like love that empowers the heart to be content, pleased and fulfilled because it is not the love that a person gives us, instead it is about the love that Christ bestows us empowering us to love like Christ. The word of God tells us in Songs of Solomon 8:4;
I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, Do not stir up nor awaken love Until it pleases.
When we awaken romantic love before it’s time, love is not what we will receive. Instead, it will be the disillusioned life experience of our own lustful appetites that awakens sinful desire towards our romantic love interest instead of the true love of Christ. Awakening love before it’s time is awakening immature desire before the mature desire of God, who is the Creator, Sustainer and Multiplier of true love. I have encountered many woman who desire to be in a romantic relationship for various reasons. Some desire to be a wife, some desire companionship, some desire a best friend, some desire a life partner and some desire a father for their children and so forth. However, if these desires have not been submitted to the desire to love like Christ and trust God’s higher and heavenly will and way for their life all these desires will give a disillusioned life experience that will end in sorrow and regret.
It is the love of Christ that prepares us as woman to know the intents and thoughts of our heart that allows us to see into that man’s heart protecting him and us from the deceitful lust of the heart that bring about a disillusioned life experience that steals time, kills hope and destroys trust. The word of God tells us,
The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it?
Only the living and powerful word of God is able to discern the intents and thoughts of the heart (Hebrews 4:12). Some believers get with the wrong mate because they had the peace of the flesh that was derived from the understanding of committing to their own way of doing things, instead of trusting God’s higher and heavenly way of doing things and end up experiencing the manifestations of heartbreak that makes it hard to recover from deceitful disillusionment derived from deceitful understanding. It is in us understanding the higher and heavenly thoughts of God that includes God’s higher and heavenly instructions that puts us on the path of God’s higher and heavenly way towards the true peace of God that removes the deceitful lust and prideful intentions of a desperately wicked heart that is set on getting our own desire our way and in our time.
Peace and joy comes from getting what we want; however just because we may experience peace and joy in relationships, it does not mean it is the peace and joy given to us from God. There is a deceitful peace and joy that comes with the desires of our flesh being satisfied because this is the presence of the spirit of deceit that makes sin pleasurable veiling the consequences of sorrow and regret that is attached to a deceitful heart full of deceitful understanding.
We hear how much woman have been hurt by men; however until we ladies take accountability of our own lustful intent that got in desired agreement with his lust, we will continue the cursed cycle of heartbreak that is the strength of broken relationships, broken couples and therefore a broken family. If we truly want to heal the family and attract the man of our dreams, we first must allow God to manifest us as the woman of God’s dream (Jeremiah 29:11) who prepares us to be our God ordained mate good thing and resounding favor.
I want to encourage you ladies as I encourage myself, do not be wise in your own understanding but pursue to know the higher and heavenly understanding of the Lord who empowers you to protect your heart with all diligence from the issues of life starting with the issue of self deceit that attracts the issues of passively and sometimes aggressively pursuing the wrong man that appears to be right because of the unresolved issue of deceitful lust in our own heart that prevents us from discerning the pure light of Christ that positions us to be seen by the true man purposed to set us free to experience true love without apprehension, doubt, fear, or deceit because we trusted God to prepare us, equip us and lead us to the man that He has approved to love us like Christ love the church, with a sacrificial life giving and empowering love that blesses at all times without the fear of regret and sorrow. Just like a man does not become a husband when he says I do to a woman; a woman does not become a wife when she thinks she is ready. Instead it is in us committing the work of discovering our purpose, cultivating our vision and fulfilling our mission that makes us the bride of Christ as He prepares us to be the wife as He prepares that man to be a husband. The word of God tells us in Isaiah 54:5-6:
For your Maker is your husband,The Lord of hosts is His name; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel; He is called the God of the whole earth. For the Lord has called you Like a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, Like a youthful wife when you were refused,” Says your God.
Do not reject Godly counsel because of what you think you are ready to experience, but have yet to truly understand. The deceitful lusts of our flesh does not change, it only grows stronger in deception appearing as a blessing from God because of the disillusioned life experience we opened the door of our heart to believe. The only thing that shifts the perspective of the flesh is the living word of God making us new in understanding the higher and heavenly way of God’s perfect work in us making us a new creation in thought, word, emotion and deed where the disillusionment of our love experience comes to an end (2 Corinthians 5:17). It takes time to heal the subconscious and conscious mind of the issues of a deceitful heart that is a slave to deceitful and charming intent (Proverbs 4:23).
I invite you to apply to enroll in the Holistic Life & Relational Wellness Coaching Certificate Program where you will discover your purpose, cultivate your vision and understand how to fulfill your mission in every relational assignment. This program is purposed to help prepare you for life, love and work as you overcome the spiritual war of a disillusioned fleshly mindset that attracts a disillusioned love experience.